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27 October 2004 @ 09:44 pm
The Meeting  
First of all, I wanted to thank you all for your comments in my last post - you're all the best! Thank you so much for all of your support! :)

My meeting with my old boss' branch manager was today and surprisingly it went VERY well,... in fact, it might have gone a little too well. :P Now I'm more confused than ever. :P I went in with the notion that I loved my current job and would probably not leave it, but I thought I owed it to myself to find out a bit more about the job before totally dismissing it.

Well, I went in and the branch manager told me how their company views things like promotions (it's based on hard work and achievement rather than senority like most places) and gave me their management philosophy (which is a gentler approach to management - where strengths are recognized in each individual and cultivated in each person so that they are more of an asset to the team.) In short, I LOVED what I heard. I left with a much better impression of the job (and the company) than I had when I went in.

Once I got back to work, I got a call from my former boss, who said the branch manager excitedly took him aside after our meeting and told him that he really wanted me to be on his team. He told my old boss that he knew I had reservations about the job because I'd been with my bank for 10 years and he could understand that but he asked my boss to call me to try to convince me to take the job...

On the other side to this, because now I was even more confused than ever (having come back from that great meeting), I decided it was time to talk confidentially with one of my current bosses (the one I always confide in). I told her everything and pretty much expected her to say that it was my choice to make and that I'd have to weigh my options. Instead, to my surprise, she asked me to stay and asked me what it would take to keep me there. She asked me about pay (though that's not a huge issue with me - I'd much rather get paid less and love my job and the environment than have a larger paycheck). She also addressed a few of the concerns I had with my BIG boss (who I felt doesn't treat anyone right at times) :P

Of course, after everything was said and done today - I'm more confused than ever. I can honestly say that I have NO IDEA what to do about this. :P On one hand, I love my current job, my co-workers, and the atmosphere in my office is one that I look forward to each day. :) But on the other, who could pass up this opportunity to grow and possibly develop into a higher management position in a seemingly nuturing environment with excited people all around me?

I have to call the branch manager back by next week to let him know if I'm interested in the job. I have no idea what to do and at this point I can't see anything happening between now and then that will be any help in making my decision. :P

Thank you all for putting up with all of my work posts lately. I know that I'm extremely lucky to have even been given such wonderful opportunities. I do want to make sure that my decision is the right one for me since it'll impact the rest of my life. :P Any thoughts or words of advice would be greatly appreciated. :)
Current Mood: sleepysleepy
Care: Carrie's pretty in pinkcareleswhisper on October 28th, 2004 01:01 am (UTC)
I say do what feels right in your heart.

Have you talked to Mark about it? If so, what does he have to say about it? Will your big boss still be a bad issue?

Just remember that sometimes a job can sound good and end up being pretty crappy. 10 years at a company is an accomplishment in itself. What if the other job doesn't work out? Just a question, not trying to tell you what to do. :)

Like I said though, do what you feel is right for you. :D *hugs* I know you'll make the right choice. :)
Sheri: Sheri - yahoo iconshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 10:57 pm (UTC)
I have actually talked with Mark about it and last night he wouldn't tell me what he thought. He kept saying it was my decision to make and he couldn't make it for me. I asked him what he would do if he was me and he didn't answer that either. Then I asked him what he thought I would do knowing me. To my surprise, he answered that and said that he thought that knowing the kind of person I was, I'd probably take the job because I'd like the challenge.

I'm still a bit confused today, but I do have the rest of the weekend to mull it over and I know that I'll come to some kind of decision by Monday - I just don't know what, though. :P

Thanks for your comments. :) *HUGS*
morsefan: Me 2morsefan on October 28th, 2004 01:22 am (UTC)
It must be great to have people bidding on you (LOL!)! I'm sure you earned it, though. On the occasion or two where I've been lucky enough to choose between two good jobs, though, I've absolutely hated it. Good luck with it -- and sleep calmly knowing that no matter what, it probably can't go way wrong given what you've described.
Sheri: Sydney - happyshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 11:00 pm (UTC)
"...and sleep calmly knowing that no matter what, it probably can't go way wrong..."

Awww, I think that's one of the most comforting things I've heard anyone say about this. :) Thank you! It really made me feel a lot better about the whole thing.

I haven't come to any conclusion yet, but I do have the entire weekend to think about it. Thank you so much for your comment! :)
curlybear on October 28th, 2004 05:51 am (UTC)
At least you know that one boss appreciates you a lot at your current job... if it were me I'd be weighing the choices carefully. "Do I want to start over with benefits and seniority by taking a new job?" would probably be one thing I would be asking myself. I mean, seriously... at some places they put limits to how many people can take off in a particular department. So if there's a day that everyone wants off (at my old workplace we all used to fight over the day after Thanksgiving), they might base it on seniority if everyone requests around the same time. And if you're the new person... you probably won't be the one to get the day off. You may have to earn vacation and sick time (depends on your company's policy.) You may have a waiting period for benefits and COBRA is expensive.

The new job has its advantages too, I'm sure. Like the fact it seems to be a different environment and maybe that would be good for you right now. Your supervisor you confided in might not be able to do anything about the way the Big Boss treats people either... if he's her boss he might even resent you for saying something to her unless other people have said something too.

So I guess at this point you have to figure out by weighing the pluses and minuses both ways. (Don't laugh but a lot of times when I have to make a really tough decision I will literally brinstorm a list of pluses and minuses and a lot of times seeing it out there helps me put things into perspective.)

I know you'll make a good decision. *hugs*
Sheri: Sheri - yahoo iconshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 11:07 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much, Laura! You bring up some excellent points! In my current job, I have all the benefits of being with the company for the past 10 years, not to mention the trust and (hopefully) respect of those who I've worked with for the past decade.

And I think brainstorming a list is a great idea. :) I'm sure if I see it on paper, it'll help me to sort out my feelings about all of this - somehow seeing it in front of you makes it easier to quantify.

Thank you so much for all your thoughts, Laura! I really appreciate you taking the time to help me with my decision making. :) Big *HUGS* to you! :)
WE ALL NEED A SENSE OF HUMOR: small  bl catbeam861 on October 28th, 2004 06:23 am (UTC)
Wow! You are so lucky to have been given so many opportunities. But what to do....Can you see yourself working somewhere else? Does it seem like it could be home?
How would the change effect you life? Does it require overtime? Is the drive time the same? Are the benefits the same? Hard to know what to do. Do you feel like you need a change? Are you emotional and physically up to a change?
Sometimes we can convince ourselves that we are happy, just because we don't want to change. Also, sometimes when we talk about leaving a job, they never take us seriously when we decide to stay, and pass us over for promos, ect because they think of us as a "flight risk" I don't know if that would be the case with your job or not. My advice is to take a nice relaxing shower or bath, cuddle with the fuzzy dog and hubby, and just let your mind wander. Of course, don't forget to pray over it either. Does Mark have a feeling on this? Good Luck with everything!
Sheri: Sydney - happyshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 11:18 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much Barb! You've asked some great questions. The funny thing was that I could see myself working (and fitting in well at the other job - the branch manager introduced me to quite a few of the workers there) and it could very well be home for me. :)

And you bring up an excellent point about change... I'm fairly confident about one thing, though. If I decided not to take the job, I don't think it'll be because I'm afraid of change. I thrive on challenges and excitement. The sad thing is that I am really happy where I am and I've never been happy at a job before - so this is a very new experience for me.

I have definitely been praying about this. And Mark has told me that it was my decision to make and that he'd support whatever I decided to do.

Thanks so much for all your advice, Barb! I feel like you're my surrogate sister (I'd say Mommy, but you're far too young to be my Mommy) :) Thanks for everything, Barb! Big *HUGS* to you, you're the best! :)
WE ALL NEED A SENSE OF HUMOR: BOObeam861 on October 29th, 2004 06:31 am (UTC)
Glad I could help you! Maybe we are soul mates from miles across or something! I have always felt a special connection with you too! Good Luck on whatever you decide!
Big Hugs and have a great weekend!
queenstacey on October 28th, 2004 02:07 pm (UTC)
WOW Congrat on the # of oppertunities opened to you.... sit back and weigh the options... make a pro and con list for each... talk with your hubby about... and think about how each will effect you and those in your life....
Sheri: Sheri - yahoo iconshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 11:20 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much, Stacey! Great advice! I will definitely have to weigh my options this weekend. Thanks so much for your comment! :) *HUGS*
queenstacey on October 28th, 2004 11:32 pm (UTC)
no problem anytime! Glad to help.
Sabinesabine10 on October 28th, 2004 02:17 pm (UTC)
Yes, it's true that you are lucky to have such great opportunities. It shows how much they appreciate you and your work. But it really is hard to come to a decision. I agree a lot with Beam861's thoughts about that all.

Still, I'm sure that your feelings will help you to come to the right decision. I wish you good luck with everything and you are in my thoughts, Sheri. *Hugs*
Sheri: Sheri - yahoo iconshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 11:23 pm (UTC)
Thanks Sabine! I think I may be a bit closer to making a decision, but I really think that I'm going to go back and forth on this in my mind the whole weekend. :P I just want to make the right decision and not have any regrets.

Thank you so much for all your support, Sabine. Not only now, but throughout the entire time that I've known you. You've been a wonderful friend! :)

*HUGS* to you and please give one to Micki for me. :)
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Sheri: Sheri - yahoo iconshutterbug93 on October 28th, 2004 11:25 pm (UTC)
Awww, thanks so much for your comment, Kristen! It made me feel so much better! What I truly love about you is your optimism - you're the best! :) Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, they make perfect sense! :) *HUGS* to you! :)
karmastyx: tink-sparkle made by prince0fangelskarmastyx on October 29th, 2004 12:28 am (UTC)
I am tending to agree with a lot of other posters suggestions. I would be silly to re-type them. Like you said you have time to think on it. :) HUGS!
Sheri: Sheri - yahoo iconshutterbug93 on October 29th, 2004 12:52 am (UTC)
Thanks so much, Laura! I'm glad I have the weekend to think about this and I don't have to make a decision right now (because I don't know if I'd make the right one if I had to decide now). Thanks for your comments. *HUGS*