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27 June 2003 @ 09:10 pm
Thanks again to my great LJ friends for their wonderful advice...  
I just got home not too long ago from the Memorial Service for my ex-fiance's mother. I'm glad that I went - it was nice to see my ex's father again and it was really moving to see how many lives my ex's mother had touched. My ex was surprised to see me, but ultimately it wasn't uncomfortable or anything and his wife is a real sweetheart - hugging me and thanking me for coming. It was a beautiful tribute to a wonderful woman and I'm glad that I decided to go.

On a different - though somewhat related note - I spoke to my mother tonight after the memorial service and it appears that my grandmother is having a problem with her eye. They're not sure exactly what's wrong, but one morning she woke up and couldn't see correctly out of it... :( They think it might've been a mild stroke, but they're going to run some tests to make sure. My Mom says she's fine though and there's no reason to be concerned, but I'm just a worrier by nature...

My grandmother recently celebrated her 90th birthday and she has such a robust and feisty personality that we've always joked that she was way too stubborn to pass away and that she'd probably outlive us all. She still lives on her own and wakes up every morning at 4am to tend to her yard and cook amazing meals and even carries burning hibachis around her back yard. It's been a while since I've gone for a visit and I'm suddenly feeling the need to go to the Big Island to see her. If nothing else, the events of the past week have made me realize I shouldn't take anything for granted.
Kananigirlkananigirl on June 28th, 2003 01:50 am (UTC)
I'm glad the memorial service went smooothly. I'm glad it all worked out for you.

Wow you have family on the Big Island? I do too, gosh I miss going there. I only have one grand parent left, but well...she's suffering from dementia.
Sherishutterbug93 on June 28th, 2003 12:38 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Rayna. Most of my aunties and uncles on my Mother's side live on the Big Island. :) My Mom goes back quite often to see them, but I haven't been back there in a while. I know I should go - maybe over the 4th of July weekend...

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. :(
Carecareleswhisper on June 28th, 2003 02:07 am (UTC)
I'm glad to hear that the service went well.

I hope your grandma is okay. *hugs*

Take care and have a nice weekend.
Sherishutterbug93 on June 28th, 2003 12:39 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much Carrie. :) Hope you have a nice weekend too. *big hugs*
irisheyes77 on June 28th, 2003 07:15 am (UTC)
I hope that your grandmother is okay. My aunt just had surgery on a hole in her eye and they said that it's actually pretty common for women 65 and up. Maybe it is something like that and not a stroke? I'm hoping for the best for your grandmother.
Sherishutterbug93 on June 28th, 2003 12:43 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much for your kind thoughts. :) And I've never heard of that, but that's definitely a possibility. The thing that worries me is that the hospitals and facilities on the Big Island aren't really "state of the art" and my grandmother really doesn't like to travel anymore so I'm hoping they'll be able to figure out what's wrong with her. :(
I'm just a girl in the world...i_am_angieface on June 28th, 2003 08:14 am (UTC)
Im really glad to hear the memorial service went smoothly. And Im glad it wasnt akward. (Is that how you spell that? lol).

I hope everything is ok with your grandmother - that is amazing she is 90 years old and still does all of those things! GO HER! Thats wonderful! I only hope I can be doing things like that at 70 - and that Im still alive.

I say go take a visit and see her! :-)
Sherishutterbug93 on June 28th, 2003 12:46 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much, Angie - you're so sweet. :) And me too - I'll feel lucky if I'm HALF as sharp and as active as she is when I'm 90 - lucky thing is that I inherited her stubborn-ness. ;) And I think I will talk to Mark and make plans to visit her soon. :)
starryeyed113 on June 28th, 2003 10:02 am (UTC)
Grandma's are great! My Grams turned 92 this year and is still like a kid! She lives at an assisted living facility just in case anything happens (she fell and broke her hip one year slipping on ice and no one knew for awhile, since she lives so far from us) but is very independent and loves helping the staff and stuff like that. Glad that you decided to go to your ex's mother's memorial service and that everything worked out okay.
Sherishutterbug93 on June 28th, 2003 12:48 pm (UTC)
Re: Grandma's
Wow! Your grandma sounds so spunky too! :) Isn't that the greatest thing - to see someone so active and well at that age? :) And thanks for your kind words about the service, I'm glad everything turned out okay too.
Sabine: Lausersabine10 on June 28th, 2003 10:56 pm (UTC)
I'm glad glad to hear something from you and that the service went well. It's a good thing that your grandmother is such an independent person. :) I hope that she is all right.

Wish you a nice Sunday and take care, please.
Sherishutterbug93 on June 29th, 2003 02:49 am (UTC)
Thanks, Sabine. :) And grandmother is VERY independent - sometimes a little too much, I think... Thanks for you nice wishes. Hope you have a nice rest of your weekend too. :) Take care.