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04 October 2003 @ 07:07 am
Avoidance & facing my own demons...  
First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for their thoughts, prayers, and warm wishes for my Mother-in-law. My family appreciates it more than you'll know. *big hugs* to everyone.

Mark still hasn't talked about any of this. I've tried to bring it up by asking him questions about his parents' trip, etc. He seems to be in a sort of "avoidance mode" - which I'm not really sure what to do about. I worry about him a lot and I know that even though he looks and acts fine, he's really not.

Haven't been around LJ much the past couple of days, I've been keeping busy at work, and other non-personal related web things and I think I've partially slipped into the "avoidance thing" myself. I did speak with my Mom on Thursday at length about this and it did make me feel better about the whole situation. She reminded me that several of my aunts were diagnosed with breast cancer early, had surgeries, and right now (years later) are living healthy normal lives. It was nice to hear. I think that one of my concerns stemmed from the fact that my only exposure to cancer was my Dad - who was diagnosed with lung cancer (though he never smoked) and passed away within a month. It was encouraging to hear that there were so many who beat it.

Again, I wanted to thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers it really does mean a lot to my family. *HUGS*
I'm just a girl in the world...: Boxing Glovesi_am_angieface on October 4th, 2003 10:54 am (UTC)
It really is such a good thing his mom caught it early... that helps SO much! Ive known so many people who have been able to beat cancer... there is great technology today... and catching it early is the BEST beginning. I hope Mark can get some comfort soon and can share his feelings, before they build up and get to him. *HUGS*

This is my "Life is worth fighting for" with the little pink ribbon breast cancer ribbon on her shirt! :)
Sherishutterbug93 on October 5th, 2003 07:12 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Angie. You're so sweet and always have been such a big supporter of breast cancer awareness. Thank you for your sweet thoughts regarding my family. *HUGS*
Sabine: Lauser Kopfsabine10 on October 4th, 2003 12:59 pm (UTC)
Even if I hope that Mark can talk about his feelings to get comfort I'm sure that he also knows that you are there for him, what gives him a feeling of security and understanding. Sometime, when I was looking for a poem by U. Schaffer I found these words, written by a young woman:
If the room in which I am has got locked doors,
if my hope is showered with doubts,
if I am drowning in mourning,
if the will to live is swamped with fear,
if the "no" is stronger than the "yes",
then I wish to see the sun through the clouds.

Sheri, I wish you and your family that there always will be some sun which you can see through the clouds.
Sherishutterbug93 on October 5th, 2003 07:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Sabine for all your encouragement. The poem is beautiful. Please take care and thanks so much again for all your support. *hugs*
orion74 on October 4th, 2003 06:50 pm (UTC)
I'm sure Mark will open up when he is ready. I had a grandmother and more recently an aunt who survived breast cancer. The odds are in her favor with the early detection. Amanda and I send our blessings.
Sherishutterbug93 on October 5th, 2003 07:16 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Tom. It is nice to know that there are so many out there who have beat this. Thank you and Amanda both for your prayers. *hugs*
Care: hugscareleswhisper on October 5th, 2003 12:53 am (UTC)
*hugs* Mark will open up when he feels it's time to. He's very lucky to have a wonderful wife by his side through all of this. :) *BIGHUGS* It'll be okay.
Sherishutterbug93 on October 5th, 2003 07:17 pm (UTC)
*HUGS* Thanks, Carrie. You always say the sweetest, most encouraging things. *hugs*
WE ALL NEED A SENSE OF HUMORbeam861 on October 5th, 2003 04:09 pm (UTC)
My Father was dxd with Lung cancer a few years ago, and he did smoke
he also was a fireman. He did make a full, complete recovery. He
also had a heart attack at 37 and recovered from that, when chances
were slim, he has had open heart surgery 22 years ago, and since then 1 angioplasty and he never has lived his life like a vegtable.
He has always been very active. You must all remain positive and
be ready for a fight. Hang in there!
Sherishutterbug93 on October 5th, 2003 07:19 pm (UTC)
It's nice to hear that your father made a complete recovery from lung cancer - that's wonderful. Thanks for your words of encouragement. Take care and please give your family (and Mortie) a hug for me.