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24 December 2003 @ 11:58 pm
Not the Christmas Eve I would've expected.  
First off I wanted to thank you all for your kind words and prayers for my friend and her family. I will certainly pass along your condolences to her.

Unfortunately my Christmas Eve was not as uneventful as I would've hoped. We just got home from probably the longest Christmas Eve that I'll ever spend in my life. :P I was sitting at home typing a happier LJ entry this evening (and responding to some posts) when I got a frantic call from my Mom. She told me that she had a pain in her arm that wouldn't go away and that she was having pains in her chest and having a hard time breathing. I told her to hang up because I was going to call 911 - but she refused. Japanese culture teaches us to not cause ourselves "shame" and she was afraid that the neighbors would worry and if it was nothing, she'd be embarrassed (I know, it's pretty silly, but Japanese culture is all about avoiding "shame").

So I told her to call her doctor. While she did Mark & I hopped into the car and drove out to her house. She lives about 25 minutes away from us and we thought if she wouldn't call 911, we were going to go over there and take her to the Emergency Room. She called me back about 10 minutes later while we were on our way and she said the doctor didn't think it was anything to worry about because the pain was in her right arm and he just thought she was having a panic attack.

She told me that she was probably fine and that she didn't want to go to the Emergency Room at all. I argued with her for a few minutes about it, insisting that her doctor never examined her, just took her symptoms over the phone. She still refused to go because she didn't want to cause trouble on Christmas Eve. I finally told her, "Mom, we're coming to pick you up and we're taking you to the Emergency Room. You can either change your clothes and wear something that you wouldn't mind being seen in public with, or we're taking you in your sleepwear."

She finally conceded and we picked her up and took her to the hospital. It was about 9pm when they checked her in and at 10:45pm I asked to see her because everyone else around us had left (even some people who came after us). :P It was a pretty long hour and a half waiting there in the waiting room, not knowing if everything was okay. :P When I finally got to go into the examining room, I was SO relieved to see her talking and laughing with the nurse and to hear that she was fine. Two doctors looked her over, they gave her an EKG, and both doctors determined that it was just a panic attack and nothing to worry about. Thank God! But it was quite a scare for all of us!

I know that I've panicked a bit too much about my Mom in the past (the time I couldn't reach her on the phone, etc.) but I worry a lot about her. I also keep thinking, if someone 13 years ago had listened to my Dad's concerns, maybe he'd still be with us today. I'm just so thankful that she didn't have a heart attack or a stroke. I seriously don't know what I would've done if anything happened to her tonight. :(

I plan to have a better day tomorrow and feel more "Christmasy" - sorry for the constant downers I've been posting today. :P
Current Mood: draineddrained
Kananigirlkananigirl on December 25th, 2003 02:19 am (UTC)
I'm glad it was nothing to worry about. It's good to hear it wasn't really anything bad.

Christmas should be a relaxing time, spending it with your loved ones, instead of stressing out and worrying.

Btw, Merry Christmas Sheri! Eat a lot of sushi and stuff. ;-)
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 02:26 am (UTC)
Thanks Rayna, we were so relieved that she was okay too! :)

And thanks for the Christmas wishes! Please have a wonderful Christmas yourself! *HUGS*
Kananigirlkananigirl on December 25th, 2003 02:30 am (UTC)
::sniff sniff:: ((hugs))

Thank you!
Smithasmittenbyu on December 25th, 2003 05:33 am (UTC)
wow...what an adventure!! it's normal to worry about our parents! And so glad to hear it was nothing!! There's something to be thankful for!

I am sure you will now have a wonderful Christmas day!! :)
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 07:56 am (UTC)
It is really something to be thankful for! I'm still a worry wart though and I'm calling my Mom in a bit to make sure she's okay. :P Thanks for your thoughts and I hope you have a wonderful Christmas too. :) *HUGS*
irisheyes77 on December 25th, 2003 07:39 am (UTC)
That had to be so super scary! I'm glad that it turned out not to be a stroke or heart attack. When I read "right arm" instead of "left arm" I breathed a huge sigh of relief over here.

I hope today goes smoothly and uneventful for you!
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 08:00 am (UTC)
Thanks, Amanda! It was scary for us - especially because at first all she told us (before we hopped into the car) was that there was a shooting pain in her arm that wouldn't go away and she was starting to have chest pains and was having trouble breathing. I immediately thought "heart attack" without even asking her which arm! Then when she told me about the doctor's phone call I was relieved, but thought - Uh oh, maybe it's a stroke since my Mom's blood pressure has always been a BIG problem. Thankfully everything is okay, but I am calling her in a bit to make sure.

And I'm determined to have a happy, uneventful day today! :)
ajayne on December 25th, 2003 07:46 am (UTC)
Glad to hear that everyting went OK for your mom and it was not serious. I can imagine how scary that would be.

I hope your Christmas Day is better.
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 08:04 am (UTC)
Thank you so much. I think that we were more relieved than anything when we picked her up and saw that she looked okay, but we took her down to the hospital anyway just to make sure.

And I promise to post happier holiday posts today. ;) Please take care. *hugs*
ajayne on December 25th, 2003 03:13 pm (UTC)
I look forward to your happy holiday posts! But we are all here to support you when you need it. *hugs*
Mrs Beanshuman_beans on December 25th, 2003 08:00 am (UTC)
What a scare! I am so glad your mom is okay. :) I know exactly what you mean about the Japanese culture thing. Reading your post made me wonder if that would've happened to my mom would I have been able to talk her into going to the hospital. I don't think so, she's real stubborn. :/
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 08:08 am (UTC)
Thanks Rita - and I know that you must understand about that Japanese culture thing. I think even if she was having a heart attack she'd be arguing with me saying, "No don't call 911,... SHAME!" :P I'm glad that she did call me about it, though - because she said she was debating about it, but she knew if she told me about it later I would've gotten mad because she didn't call me.

And my Mom is the Queen of stubborn, I think the only one who is more stubborn than her is my 90 year old grandmother (her mother) and so I guess we all know where my Mom got it from! ;)
Mrs Beanshuman_beans on December 25th, 2003 08:27 am (UTC)
I wonder -- will you and I be as stubborn? Are we already?

I am SO relieved your mom is okay! Mom's are so special.
Sabine: Lauser Kaiserg.sabine10 on December 25th, 2003 08:47 am (UTC)
I'm happy that everything is all right with your Mom. I would have been worried, too. I hope that you will have an uneventful and happy Christmas day. *Hugs*
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 09:36 am (UTC)
Thanks, Sabine. We were very worried. Luckily, I just got off the phone with her and she seems to be doing fine (just a little embarrassed at all the commotion last night). Hope you had a wonderful Christmas! Please take care! *HUGS*
I'm just a girl in the world...i_am_angieface on December 25th, 2003 10:40 am (UTC)
Wow - how scary that must have been! Im really glad everything was ok with your mother. I couldnt even imagine how scared you must have been! Im glad to hear everything turned out well. Have a very Merry Christmas! :)
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 02:37 pm (UTC)
It was pretty scary and I think the scariest part was thinking that I was so close to her NOT calling me because she didn't want to bother me. :P I'm just glad she's okay. :)
Care: hugscareleswhisper on December 25th, 2003 11:49 am (UTC)
Wow, I'm just glad that your mom is okay. :) *hugs* She's lucky to have a daughter that is so kind and caring. I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas. :)
Sherishutterbug93 on December 25th, 2003 02:41 pm (UTC)
Thanks Carrie. :) We were pretty worried about her last night. She and I did a lot of (non-serious) arguing last night (about going to the ER) and when she got her blood pressure checked, it was 199/93! When the attendant made a comment about how high it was she jokingly pointed to me and said it was my fault. ;) Yup, well, they should've checked mine too, it would've been through the roof! ;) I'm so glad that she's okay though. :) Hope you and Roger have a great Christmas too! :)